Sometimes it really takes someone having to completely leave the presence of someone else in order to get over them completely, definitely when they know what they’re doing isn’t good for them. Creating emotional, or soul ties can be as hard to break like an alcoholic who wants to stop drinking. Be careful who and what you tie yourself to! Do what you have to, to separate yourself from ungodly ties, And remember that you can do all things through Christ who gives you strength!
It’s For You, Too.
I have been learning so much in my walk with God in the past few years!
When I read the Bible, or if I’m in church, or hearing the word of God in some way… that is my time to receive, and meditate on the word. I remember a couple of years ago when I’d sit in church, and when Pastor would say something about what we shouldn’t do, I’d think about someone ELSE who does that same exact thing, and I would be pointing my fingers at them, instead of checking MYSELF to see if I am doing any of those things that I need to work on changing in my life.
Lesson Learned: My relationship with God, and my walk with God is very important. So important that I need to be keeping myself in self-check with the word of God. Am I endeavoring to apply the word of God in ME? Am I keeping the Lord first? I DO need to hear the word, even if I have heard it many times. “That’s not for me” is a lie…definitely if you say it’s not for you because you’ve got that part down, or don’t struggle with it. Every word of God is for us, every day! :)
It can be so much easier to point out what is wrong with someone else, but we need to focus on ourselves :)
Three years… dated nobody…spent time praying, and getting myself prepared for whatever the future holds, and finally got one main thing that I was waiting, and preparing for :) I am so glad, and thankful that I have my boyfriend, Jonathon, in my life and that him and I are most definitely 110% sure that we will be getting married within the next couple of years, which is very exciting!
It’s not one of those “Hey… let’s get together, and have sex to see if we are “meant” for each other based on our emotions and see if we’re physically compatible” kind of thing. It’s not one of those “temporary, I’m only going to be with you because I feel lonely, and have no one else” kind of relationships, either. It’s DEFINITELY not one of those kinds of relationships where you go into it KNOWING that it’s not going to last… you just want someone to be with, because you don’t have anyone else, and you want to feel loved,” either. We did none of that, nor felt that way.
I remember praying every week that the next person I date, is going to be my future husband, and that I wasn’t going to make any stupid mistakes, dating the wrong guy. I told my niece, “The next guy I fall for is going to catch me, and hold me forever. Not let me drop, step over me and keep walking.” Because i did things GODS way, and not the worlds way, or my way… all of the getting intimate with God, and consecrating myself worked out very well, and will continue to :)
Jon and I have been through a whole lot… but it’s the true love that doesn’t give up, and always pursues… that has always, and will always keep us together :) No matter what we may go through, God is on our side as we keep God first in our relationship. That’s the best kind of relationship to have. A Godly one. And THAT’S a relationship that will always be strong <3
I’m so blessed, and thankful to have Jon in my life!!! :)
Be Thankful
You like your haters, because they want something that you have, and that makes you feel better about yourself. Definitely when it’s something you have, that they really want, and the more they hate on you, the more you feel good about yourself.
It’s sad.
>_>
Those of you who are jealous of someone, because of something that they have, or got that you want, don’t make it obvious that you’re jealous. You shouldn’t be jealous in the first place, but showing that person that you’re jealous of them, makes them want you to be jealous of them more, so that’s what they’re gonna strive to do. Your pain, is their gain, and it should not be that way. Be happy with what you DO have! People always want what someone else has, and aren’t thankful, and satisfied enough…There are people in poor countries who have hardly ANYTHING, and they’re thankful for the fact that they are even alive! Be thankful for what you have. It’s not all about being fully satisfied. How can you be fully satisfied when you aren’t even satisfied with what you have NOW ? You can’t be! All you want, is more more more, and nothing is enough for you.
Be Thankful :)
<3 Candace
Let’s Be Real
“I love everything about you! You’re so amazing!”- Okay, the second part i might agree with, but EVERYTHING? You probably know like 10 things about that person, and if you did know everything about them, I’m pretty darn sure you would change that first part of what you said. You don’t love everything about someone you hardly know anything about. Even the people you know a whole lot about, there are still things that you don’t know, aaand some things that you are told are false anyway. So how much do you reaaally know?
That’s what I thought.
Yeah, this is what happens after a loooong day in New Yoke (haha? that’s how Jer says it) City.
Jeremy: He gets really crabby and snappy with me when he’s tired…He gets really crabby and snappy with me…*Fixes light* He gets really crabby and snappy with me.- Uh yes, Jeremy. You said that already. TWICE! :P This is honestly one of my favorite videos.. it’s just too funny. Double D-lirious !!
“Would you date a fan?” -FAQ
I’m pretty sure you have seen that question SO many times! And yeah, it is pretty annoying after a while, but I actually now understand why girls ask band members this question. In this blog I’m pretty much talking about DD fans since that was a topic yesterday i was discussing with a couple people.
When girls ask “Would you date a fan?” i think it’s cause they realize that these known band members, or celebrities usually only date people that they have been close friends with, or someone that doesn’t have the hardcore crazy fan qualities, you know all the obsession, and craziness that a lot of fans have. Of course, there are fans who are very humble, mature, not crazy and obsessed, and see the band as amazing musicians who travel and play music…you know? and they treat them like normal guys. So, who would the guys be more attracted to if looking for someone to date? A fan is just someone who likes their music anyway, so I’m hoping that whoever one of the guys date next will be one of their fans :P It’s all what type of personality and looks you have, and if they align with what the guys are attracted to. You also need to be real about it, like if you’re 14 years old going after Jon, it’s just not gonna happen. And if you’re screaming and jumping all over the place when you approach them, and you’re being a total creep, that’s not so attractive either. It’s flattering to the guys, and it’s awesome to have enthusiastic fans, but when it comes to dating, think reality.
<3Candace
Interview with @DaysDifference that Lizzy and I did. I thought I’d post a blog about this day.
It was such a relief, getting inside the venue after having to deal with annoying people, and waiting outside in the city air, that caused my nose to be extremely itchy! I don’t know what it was, but we had to get into a store anyway for air conditioning, and my nose stopped irritating me. Allergic to Philly ? :(
The line to get into the venue was pushed back like 50 meters from the entrance door, and then there was this other line at the door for Jordin Sparks meet n greet. LIzzy, Anna and I were just hanging out near the line, because we had to wait for Blake to come get us to bring us in, and this lady came over to us from that meet n greet line, and told us to go back in line with the others in the alley. We kind of just stared at her like what the heck O_o and we told her that we weren’t even in that line, or the other line in the alley, because we were going in to interview one of the opening bands. She was like “psh i don’t believe you!!>:(” She also said a whole bunch of other nonsense, and she stomped off back to the line. To avoid her malicious attitude, we decided to hang out in this nice clothing store for a bit, and when we came back out so that we could meet Blake at the door, the very malicious lady walks stomps back over to us and tells us to get back into the line in the alley, and i told her that we were waiting to get inside to do an interview, and so she threatened to get security over to take us away, and she even went as far as to stomping off, as if she were to get security, and came back with an angry look on her face. Again… Lizzy, Anna and i just stood there watching her. haha! It was pretty funny/sad. So i told the lady for the third time that we weren’t in any line, have VIP and are going backstage in a couple minutes for the interview” she went a little silent after i told her that, she went back to the line pouting while giving us evil looks, and i called Blake to come get us. Crazy lady! -_-
Interview: I was told by Blake that we had ten minutes to do the interview, and then we had to leave and go back out with the crowd right away… i, thinking it was impossible was in fact, impossible. We ended up hanging out in this little room (you see in the video) for 40 minutes, before even starting it, and Blake wasn’t even in the room hardly at all. In fact, we only saw him when he dropped us off. We had a great time, and i enjoyed doing my very first interview. This video is obviously edited… the actual length is almost 12 minutes long, and I’m sure you don’t want to sit there that long, as funny as the full video is anyway :P I’m probably going to make a video with deleted scenes :)
Oh.. remember that truths and a lie video that the guys never answered, and how we thought maybe they forgot ? well, they didn’t. I was hoping for one of them to mention that video when i asked Jeremiah about him playing the violin years ago.
Well, i hope that you enjoy the interview if you haven’t watched it yet, and if you did watch it, i hope you enjoyed it already! :)
if you have any questions, ask me on formspring! www.formspring.me/CandyGirlxox
<3 Candace
Even though i already thanked them all in the video, I just want to say thank you so much to everyone who was involved in the interview, with making it happen <3
What to Go After… Their Dreams or Mine?
I always wonder when I will realize that some things in life that i want, are just not meant for me. I keep on chasing after things, and people that i shouldn’t really be involved with so much. I wonder why my friends get what they want so perfectly, and if I try, i just completely fail at it, yet i keep going after it. “I am a moth, and you are the light that I’m drawn to, and no matter how many times i get burned, i keep falling for you.” (something i wrote) I have been involved in other activities in my life that I am good at, yet i keep following other bands around, and their dreams. Soon, i lost my own dreams, and i don’t want that anymore. Things work out for others, but not for me…. because I have a God given purpose, and i need to pursue that. I love going to concerts and all, but I have such a gift in music. I have been playing piano since i was 4, i play saxophone, and have gotten better at my singing. Shouldn’t iiii be out there on the stage, too? I used to be, and I need to get my mind back to where it was. Thank you for the encouragement that i have been getting from those of you who believe in me, and know that I can do it! I know i can, and I honestly need to get away from the whole “going to concerts” all the time, being so involved with band craziness, because i need to work on my own music. I actually have the notebook with all these songs that i have written down, or almost finished right here in front of me, opened to a song that i wrote a couple years ago. Why haven’t i completely finished it yet ? I remember playing the song in the band room at school, and my friends would sing my song along with me. It was such a great feeling, and even now, when i share my music with friends, they absolutely love it. My one friend thought that my song was a song on the radio and wanted to know who the artist is, so that she could go look it up. I do have to say though… the last couple concerts i went to, have been very motivating :) Maybe this next one coming up will complete my motivation.
<3Candace
Paranoid
-Thinking that one of your friends is hiding something from you, and you just can’t stand that feeling so you don’t trust them, or all your friends.
- Thinking that someone doesn’t like you… and you pretty much make everything they say to you seem like there’s some hidden message that they don’t.
- You get that feeling that your friends are talking about you behind your back… as if they secretly hate you together… and when you all hang out, you keep an eye on them, as if they have an evil plot to bring you down.
- Thinking that when you’re talking to someone, they act like they are interested in the conversation, but to someone else, they’re telling them that they’re talking to you, but really don’t like you at all.
- Feeling very unsafe all the time, always thinking that someone is watching you.
- Just because someone didn’t reply to you, “omgsh, i think they hate me… ” and you go on and on about how they probably hate you just cause they didn’t respond to you one time.
- Thinking that everything being said from someone has something to do with you, like they’re trying to secretly send a message to you all the time.
I’m sure you all can relate. And i really can’t stand being paranoid. You know.. the reason I do get paranoid at times, is because what i listed up there… someone i know is probably doing what I’m paranoid about. Just because someone is paranoid, it doesn’t mean that they’re wrong about it.
Think about it, you talk to your friends, and you sometimes get a “so I’m talking to this girl… but i completely hate her” or “i want to tell her that I have feelings for him, but she’ll get so mad at me.” What about when you post things, and you’re trying to send a message to a certain person. There are always secrets, secret hate, secret love, fear of showing how you really feel about someone, “there are stalkers out there, what if one is stalking me,” “i think he hates me cause he won’t talk to me”… People do these things to each other all the time! Being paranoid is not a good thing though, cause really, all you do is worry worry worry. You just can’t stand anyone, and trust very little.
This is something that I am actually working on, trying not to be as paranoid as i can be, and to be honest, I can go over the top on things. I am doing my best to just stop worrying, and try enjoying the moments. I will always be cautious, but I want to just chill out and relax, too. Those of you who can relate to me, I encourage you to do the same, because when you’re paranoid, you actually become very annoying to others, and because they are annoyed, they’ll treat you differently, and you’ll become even MORE paranoid, you see what I’m saying ? You just start to become the very insecure, annoying person who doesn’t stop worrying about things, and you then give others a reason to not like you. So work on this with me! just relax, and stop worrying :) Let’s be confident and secure :)
<3Candace
